Acceptance is our only Salvation-Part 1

The concept of love is tricky. Most of the people who know it seem to think that they get it, that they understand it but that is a mere illusion because it is what actually gets to them, to all of them, sooner or later. All the people who have loved know the pain of losing. There is hardly anyone I have come across who has loved and not lost. Without the pain of losing, the joy of love is really hard to savour. The feeling of knowing that someone out there loves the things you do, the way you do them, the reasons you do them and in turn feeling the same way about someone is seemingly one of the most ethereal forms of emotion that we people get a chance to experience but this does not come that easy, it has certain harsh realities associated with itself just like there is always a terms and conditions apply clause in every agreement you come across. 

The biggest mistake we humans do is take this fact as a given that if we love someone like there is no one else in the world but them, they will do it too for us. Well I guess this is the mistake most humans make and the reason we do this is simple, when we care for someone, we tend to feel that we deserve the same care from them. This is not what love entails. Love does not mean that if you give, you are bound to get. It simply implies that you can give all you want but there is no point in expecting the same. If that were the case, the world would be an ideal place with no space for any kind of sorrow or grief. When we expect the reciprocation of our love from someone, all we are doing is binding ourselves to the attached sadness because this will always be uncertain. The person you love may not even be aware of it and even if aware, each of us function in a different way so there is no telling what or whom the other person admires. That is the reason I believe that acceptance is our only salvation.

 

To love someone is a joy to feel and to be loved back is the eternal bliss everyone talks about. But the other mistake people make is that they feel that Love in their hearts will last forever and nothing is powerful enough to make it go away. That is something that needs correction and the sooner the better. The problem with some of us is that we bind ourselves to this feeling for a lifetime and we get so used to telling ourselves that we love someone that even if actually we hate everything about them at some point later in time, our heart will never accept this simply because it does not identify this emotion as a possible consequence. The reason behind this is cloaking. Every human being puts a cloak on to hide his true self, not just from the world, but themselves at times. That is why there are times when we fail to identify ourselves, let alone someone else. This cloak prevents us from knowing the true image of a person and we begin to love this perceived image, this false persona that does not exist in reality. Now when you get to actually know someone from close quarters, this outer cloak begins to fade away and we begin to understand that it was all a lie. That is when that feeling tends to diminish as well and that is exactly when we go into denial mode....to be contd....